Christian Dads -- 2 Common Sense Tips
On How To Connect With Your Daughters
(And Do It Well!)
On How To Connect With Your Daughters
(And Do It Well!)
We love Jesus. We love our daughters. And we desire to connect with our daughters...
Deeply.
The tips below, dad, will give you practical guidelines on deepening the connection between you and your daughters.
May the Lord give us on-going strength and wisdom in our “connecting journey” with those so precious to us.
Tip Number One
My first common sense tip is: ask good questions.
Good questions allow you to engage in the art of good listening.
Generally speaking, “good daughter questions”:
Deeply.
The tips below, dad, will give you practical guidelines on deepening the connection between you and your daughters.
May the Lord give us on-going strength and wisdom in our “connecting journey” with those so precious to us.
Tip Number One
My first common sense tip is: ask good questions.
Good questions allow you to engage in the art of good listening.
Generally speaking, “good daughter questions”:
- Are are caring in nature,
- Allow your daughter to share as needed,
- Reflect an interest in the world of your daughter,
- And do NOT consistently qualify as one of those “Oh dad only asks me stuff when something is wrong” questions.
Yes, I know that caring questions can and must be placed before the ones you love so as to identify any patterns of thinking or acting that either are bringing or will most certainly bring pain, heartache or discouragement to their lives.
All true.
All understood.
And yet allow me to lay before you one tip related to the point I just made: work on earning the right over time to ask the hard, caring questions.
Love first.
Love always.
Ask questions in love.
And depend on Jesus like crazy during the process.
Tip Number Two
I would phrase tip number two this way:
“Be you, yes.
But don’t be afraid of change.”
Take a mental road trip with me, dad. Go on a brief mental excursion taking just enough time to take in a few of the dads and daughters you know.
Now let me ask you a somewhat humorous yet serious question: did you ever even remotely think about a daughter who loves her father something like this:
“I don’t get it, but she does!”
My point: children love their loving dads. Daughters love their dads: all types, sizes, emotional shapes and forms :)
Do not try so hard,
And beat yourself up so bad,
Because you want to be a good dad,
That you fail to appreciate “you” in the process.
But in the realization of what I just mentioned above, do not:
Justify yourself when you are wrong and fail to make corrections along the way as the Lord points those corrections out to you.
Now believe me, dad: in your seeking to follow Jesus the Lord will inform you along the way that you need to:
Change things,
Correct things,
And grow in the often lost art of asking forgiveness along the way.
Questions For Your Journey...
“Am I using questions in the right way with my daughters? Do they sense my love, care and concern as I ask?”
“Am I being ‘me’ while relating to my daughters yet willing to change aspects of that ‘me’ that need changing for the purpose of improving our relationship?”
All true.
All understood.
And yet allow me to lay before you one tip related to the point I just made: work on earning the right over time to ask the hard, caring questions.
Love first.
Love always.
Ask questions in love.
And depend on Jesus like crazy during the process.
Tip Number Two
I would phrase tip number two this way:
“Be you, yes.
But don’t be afraid of change.”
Take a mental road trip with me, dad. Go on a brief mental excursion taking just enough time to take in a few of the dads and daughters you know.
Now let me ask you a somewhat humorous yet serious question: did you ever even remotely think about a daughter who loves her father something like this:
“I don’t get it, but she does!”
My point: children love their loving dads. Daughters love their dads: all types, sizes, emotional shapes and forms :)
Do not try so hard,
And beat yourself up so bad,
Because you want to be a good dad,
That you fail to appreciate “you” in the process.
But in the realization of what I just mentioned above, do not:
Justify yourself when you are wrong and fail to make corrections along the way as the Lord points those corrections out to you.
Now believe me, dad: in your seeking to follow Jesus the Lord will inform you along the way that you need to:
Change things,
Correct things,
And grow in the often lost art of asking forgiveness along the way.
Questions For Your Journey...
“Am I using questions in the right way with my daughters? Do they sense my love, care and concern as I ask?”
“Am I being ‘me’ while relating to my daughters yet willing to change aspects of that ‘me’ that need changing for the purpose of improving our relationship?”
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To help you connect with your daughters, be sure to read "Christian Dads -- 3 Tips To Help You Profitably Engage In The Art Of Listening To Your Daughters" by clicking here http://bit.ly/3tipschristiandads
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